Right, I found Meena's lecture very interesting. It was very enlightening to hear what different people class as "cheating". Personally, I feel even a kiss on the lips is cheating. obviously a kiss on the cheek is a recognised greeting, so if a partner of mine kissed another person on the cheek i wouldnt feel i had anything to worry about. i found it shocking the amount of people who said cheating when drunk was ok! as a non-drinker i dont really have much idea on what is it to be drunk, i have however been under the influence of alcohol, and although i said things i wouldnt normally, and found i behaved slightly out of character i was still aware of what i was doing, i just didnt care, i know, however that i wouldnt have cheated..because i did care about that. saying a few things and being noisier is less harmful than cheating in my opinion. i believe that when you are under the influence, whether alcohol or drugs, you should still have the mentally and respect to your partner to just say no.
a long term relationship behind your partners back i find even more disgusting! the lying and schemeing involved, if you can put your partner through something like that then you clearly dont love them enough. and using the fact that they didnt find out is perfected, so what! you still lyed to them, and ran the risk of hurting them, you gambled with their heart, and thats inexcusable.
i disliked meena's point about women finding empowerment through cheating. if a woman is unhappy, or a man for that matter, if they feel imprisoned, unhappy cheating is not the answer. a dependant women isnt a woman who leaves one man to run straight to another. i feel women will get more empowerment through standing on their own, leaving a repessive relationship on their own.
i also think that "cyber cheating" is still cheating, just because you dont have the physical aspect of cheating confiding ALL your personal feelings into someone, telling them details about your partner, saying "i love you". just because it is in a chat room or via email doesnt make is excusable. your partner is there to confide in, i love you should be reserved for them.
i found a website devoted to cheating- and spotting one. it has some interesting clues on how to spot someone, and some words on cyber cheating also-
http://www.signs-of-a-cheater.com/internet-infidelity.html
a long term relationship behind your partners back i find even more disgusting! the lying and schemeing involved, if you can put your partner through something like that then you clearly dont love them enough. and using the fact that they didnt find out is perfected, so what! you still lyed to them, and ran the risk of hurting them, you gambled with their heart, and thats inexcusable.
i disliked meena's point about women finding empowerment through cheating. if a woman is unhappy, or a man for that matter, if they feel imprisoned, unhappy cheating is not the answer. a dependant women isnt a woman who leaves one man to run straight to another. i feel women will get more empowerment through standing on their own, leaving a repessive relationship on their own.
i also think that "cyber cheating" is still cheating, just because you dont have the physical aspect of cheating confiding ALL your personal feelings into someone, telling them details about your partner, saying "i love you". just because it is in a chat room or via email doesnt make is excusable. your partner is there to confide in, i love you should be reserved for them.
i found a website devoted to cheating- and spotting one. it has some interesting clues on how to spot someone, and some words on cyber cheating also-
http://www.signs-of-a-cheater.com/internet-infidelity.html
the website creater also disgusses why she cheated- her excuse was "the grass was always greener" if this is the case then why cant someone leave their partner, if they truly feel the other person was better for them- dont go behind your partners back- just tell them straight. in this case i feel people are afraid to leave encase it isnt really greener this is so selfish!
i dont think infidelity is excusable in any circumstance- this lecture really riled me haha!
i dont think infidelity is excusable in any circumstance- this lecture really riled me haha!
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the whole 'what we do when we are drunk' debate is very interesting to me at the moment. i have a friend you feels regret for what he has done when under the influence of alcohol, yet i dont think that intoxication is an excuse, as you have to be responsible for the 'chain of events'. for example, you know that you are more liekly to cheat on someone when you are drunk, and you know that by drinking too much you get drunk, therefore one thing leads to another in the chain of events and you have to be responsible for all the repurcussions that follow the initial act.
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